Today was my first experience attending a termination hearing even though we've already adopted three children through the state. With our first adoption we knew our son was going to be ours from the beginning. Rights had already been terminated. I'd never met the parents.
Our second adoption was with two older boys who know their birth mom and dad. I knew the parents before the adoption but again, because of the unusual circumstances parental rights had already been terminated before they came back into our home. I had a connection with their birth mama but it was already a done deal so the mourning was different for them.
But this one? The parents didn't show up. Perhaps it was too painful. I can't imagine how painful it would be even if I was finding a way to "cover up" the pain.
List after list of offenses, failures and issues were read. Some were called to testify. All this while my 23 month old little boy played at our home (or screamed :) or escaped from the living room) totally unaware that his fate was being decided for him.
You may wonder why I wasn't jumping for joy on the inside as the parental deficiencies grew more and more apparent to the judge. But in situations like this there is a loss first, which should be recognized. Not only the child's loss, but the parent's loss as well. There at least needs to be a moment of silence...a respect that we have when someone or something has died.
Yet out of those sad ashes comes great joy for our family! We will be receiving another son! 4 strong and amazing sons! Crazy and LOUD sons! The Lord has seen fit to grow our family His way. He knows the purposes behind providing our family as the landing spot for these pre-men. Even with our deficiencies within our family, He knows exactly what is necessary and what will grow well in our "family garden".
Dear Lord, thank you for the amazing blessing of our son-to-be. Show us how to raise all of our children in such a way that they will desire to walk with You all the days of their lives. Have mercy upon his parent and provide every opportunity for them to come to know You. For You are blessed now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.