House of Boyd
We are
Christians first, above any clan or personal preference. If the God of the
universe can humble Himself to save mankind – we, His creation, can humble
ourselves to serve one another in peace and kindness.
Clan Boyd:
Confido – Confidence
1 John 3:21 Beloved, if our heart
does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God.
These are
the expectations for the children within the Boyd family
1. Privilege: Advantage; favor; benefit. As a participating
member of the House of Boyd, children will enjoy a number of privileges
directly influenced by his willingness to participate as a trustworthy member
of our family.
a. This
includes but is not limited to: approved video games, modified bedtime, “playdates”
or overnights with approved friends, school activities, extracurricular
activities, access to some movies not enjoyed by younger brothers due to
age/ability, inclusion in family outings, dinners, birthday celebrations, “dessert
date night”, game night and other privileges enjoyed by family members in good
standing.
b. Boyd
children will never lose the right to physical and emotional safety, food,
shelter, clothing, education and appropriate sleeping conditions.
c. It is
completely in each child’s power whether they participate in the privileges
available to them as a member of the Boyd family or not.
2. Obedience: Compliance
with a command, prohibition or known law and rule of duty prescribed; the
performance of what is required or enjoined by authority, or the abstaining
from what is prohibited, in compliance with the command or prohibition. To
constitute obedience the act or
forbearance to act must be in submission to authority; the command must be
known to the person, and his compliance must be in consequence of it, or it is
not obedience; obedience is not synonymous with
obsequiousness; the latter often implying meanness or servility, and obedience being merely a proper
submission to authority. That which duty requires implies dignity of conduct
rather than servility. obedience
may be voluntary or involuntary. Voluntary obedience
alone can be acceptable to God.
a. Our goal is to act with kindness and
love in all things. If someone makes a
reasonable request we should do our best to honor that request with kindness.
b. Boyd children will be expected to
obey requests given to them by Mom and Dad.
c. Mom and Dad will NEVER ask them to do
anything illegal or immoral.
d. Some requests may not be part of Boyd children's
personal preferences, but they will be expected to respectfully respond and
execute request.
e. Requests are expected to be executed
in a respectful calm manner, without argument or complaint.
f.
If
an older sibling is left in charge obedience and respect are expected to be
shown. The sibling in charge is expected
to be kind to children being cared for.
As long as the sibling in charge is not asking supervised children to do
something dangerous or immoral, obedience is expected. Any grievances will be reviewed upon the
return of the parent. If supervising
child is found to be in the wrong there will be restitution.
3. Respect: That estimation or honor in which men hold
the distinguished worth or substantial good qualities of others. It expresses
less than reverence and veneration, which regard elders and superiors; whereas respect may regard juniors and
inferiors.
a. Boyd children are expected to treat members of
the House of Boyd in a respectful manner.
b. While Boyd children are not expected
to be “happy” about frustrating situations they are expected to speak in a calm
manner or ask to be excused until such time as they are able to return and
address family members in a respectful tone.
c. We are aiming for mutual respect,
which is not to be confused with equality between children and parents or
equality of privileges between older and younger children within the home.
d. Parents have a higher level of authority and
responsibility than children. It is the
God –given responsibility of the parent to love and nurture children within the
family, but also to train and discipline when discipline is required.
e. Respect includes respect of persons,
property and rules of the House of Boyd.
f.
We
encourage the respect of persons, property and rules in and out of the home but
adherence will be fully enforced within the House of Boyd.
i.
Love,
joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, thankfulness, and
self-control are encouraged without any boundaries.
ii.
We
reject any form of lying, stealing, destruction of property, blasphemy, foul
language, coarse joking, purposefully inflicting physical or emotional pain on
oneself or another person.
4. Grievances: That which causes grief or uneasiness; that
which burdens, oppresses or injures, implying a sense of wrong done, or a
continued injury, and therefore applied only to the effects of human conduct;
never to providential evils. The oppressed subject has the right to petition
for a redress of grievances.
a. If Boyd
children feel they have been ill used, wrongfully accused or would like to
petition for a change of rule they may request to be heard AFTER request has
been respectfully carried out.
b. If Boyd
children feel they are being wrongfully accused they may ask if they can speak
in their defense.
c. If a
Boyd child or the other party is “heated”, communication will be deferred until
such time as both parties can speak together in a calm and respectful manner.
5. Discipline: To
instruct or educate; to inform the mind; to prepare by instructing in correct
principles and habits; as, to discipline
youth for a profession, or for future usefulness. Our job as parents is to set
an example of Christ in the home, to love unconditionally and to discipline
consistently.
a. We are not perfect, nor do we expect
our children to be perfect.
b. Discipline is not intended to inflict
pain or suffering, but to serve as a strong deterrent from dangerous, destructive
or immoral behavior and to ultimately encourage a change or turning of the
heart toward Christ.
c. The discipline may benefit our
household for a time, encouraging peace within the home, but the purpose is for
a lasting understanding of the love of God and the hope of Salvation.
d. Hebrews 12:11 No discipline seems
pleasant at the time, but painful. Later
on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who are
trained by it.
