House of Boyd
We are Christians first, above any clan or personal preference. If the God of the universe can humble Himself to save mankind – we, His creation, can humble ourselves to serve one another in peace and kindness.
Clan Boyd: Confido – Confidence
1 John 3:21 Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God.
These are the expectations for the children within the Boyd family
1. Privilege: Advantage; favor; benefit. As a participating member of the House of Boyd, children will enjoy a number of privileges directly influenced by his willingness to participate as a trustworthy member of our family.
a. This includes but is not limited to: approved video games, modified bedtime, “playdates” or overnights with approved friends, school activities, extracurricular activities, access to some movies not enjoyed by younger brothers due to age/ability, inclusion in family outings, dinners, birthday celebrations, “dessert date night”, game night and other privileges enjoyed by family members in good standing.
b. Boyd children will never lose the right to physical and emotional safety, food, shelter, clothing, education and appropriate sleeping conditions.
c. It is completely in each child’s power whether they participate in the privileges available to them as a member of the Boyd family or not.
2. Obedience: Compliance with a command, prohibition or known law and rule of duty prescribed; the performance of what is required or enjoined by authority, or the abstaining from what is prohibited, in compliance with the command or prohibition. To constitute obedience the act or forbearance to act must be in submission to authority; the command must be known to the person, and his compliance must be in consequence of it, or it is not obedience; obedience is not synonymous with obsequiousness; the latter often implying meanness or servility, and obedience being merely a proper submission to authority. That which duty requires implies dignity of conduct rather than servility. obedience may be voluntary or involuntary. Voluntary obedience alone can be acceptable to God.
a. Our goal is to act with kindness and love in all things. If someone makes a reasonable request we should do our best to honor that request with kindness.
b. Boyd children will be expected to obey requests given to them by Mom and Dad.
c. Mom and Dad will NEVER ask them to do anything illegal or immoral.
d. Some requests may not be part of Boyd children's personal preferences, but they will be expected to respectfully respond and execute request.
e. Requests are expected to be executed in a respectful calm manner, without argument or complaint.
f. If an older sibling is left in charge obedience and respect are expected to be shown. The sibling in charge is expected to be kind to children being cared for. As long as the sibling in charge is not asking supervised children to do something dangerous or immoral, obedience is expected. Any grievances will be reviewed upon the return of the parent. If supervising child is found to be in the wrong there will be restitution.
3. Respect: That estimation or honor in which men hold the distinguished worth or substantial good qualities of others. It expresses less than reverence and veneration, which regard elders and superiors; whereas respect may regard juniors and inferiors.
a. Boyd children are expected to treat members of the House of Boyd in a respectful manner.
b. While Boyd children are not expected to be “happy” about frustrating situations they are expected to speak in a calm manner or ask to be excused until such time as they are able to return and address family members in a respectful tone.
c. We are aiming for mutual respect, which is not to be confused with equality between children and parents or equality of privileges between older and younger children within the home.
d. Parents have a higher level of authority and responsibility than children. It is the God –given responsibility of the parent to love and nurture children within the family, but also to train and discipline when discipline is required.
e. Respect includes respect of persons, property and rules of the House of Boyd.
f. We encourage the respect of persons, property and rules in and out of the home but adherence will be fully enforced within the House of Boyd.
i. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, thankfulness, and self-control are encouraged without any boundaries.
ii. We reject any form of lying, stealing, destruction of property, blasphemy, foul language, coarse joking, purposefully inflicting physical or emotional pain on oneself or another person.
4. Grievances: That which causes grief or uneasiness; that which burdens, oppresses or injures, implying a sense of wrong done, or a continued injury, and therefore applied only to the effects of human conduct; never to providential evils. The oppressed subject has the right to petition for a redress of grievances.
a. If Boyd children feel they have been ill used, wrongfully accused or would like to petition for a change of rule they may request to be heard AFTER request has been respectfully carried out.
b. If Boyd children feel they are being wrongfully accused they may ask if they can speak in their defense.
c. If a Boyd child or the other party is “heated”, communication will be deferred until such time as both parties can speak together in a calm and respectful manner.
5. Discipline: To instruct or educate; to inform the mind; to prepare by instructing in correct principles and habits; as, to discipline youth for a profession, or for future usefulness. Our job as parents is to set an example of Christ in the home, to love unconditionally and to discipline consistently.
a. We are not perfect, nor do we expect our children to be perfect.
b. Discipline is not intended to inflict pain or suffering, but to serve as a strong deterrent from dangerous, destructive or immoral behavior and to ultimately encourage a change or turning of the heart toward Christ.
c. The discipline may benefit our household for a time, encouraging peace within the home, but the purpose is for a lasting understanding of the love of God and the hope of Salvation.
d. Hebrews 12:11 No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who are trained by it.